Questions are the most amazingly simple thing that we can come up with when we want to learn about someone else.
Dale Carnegie in his mega-best-selling book "How to win friends and influence people" talks about the power of asking questions to show that we are interested in someone else.
Have you ever been to a party and you have been the one asking the questions and doing most of the listening? If you have you will probably agree that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting - funny that! You probably did less that 20% of the speaking but you got 100% of the credit!
If you 're a guy and ask a lady some great questions, you will often find yourself leap-frogging to last-base, saving a lot of time and energy trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and really listening to what a person says is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do with anyone.
If you are a lady and want to stroke a guy's ego and make him feel good then ask lots of interesting questions and then listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a string from there on!
Despite the ego-focused side of asking and listening there is a genuine side as well. Because the people who are genuinely interested in someone else and ask great questions are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.
Here are 21 questions to ask to get the conversation rolling. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions - which are always better.
Here's 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl to get you started
1. If you are working as a waiter and one of your customers was really rude, would you spit in their soup or even think to do this?
2. What was your favourite Halloween dress up costume as a child and why?
3. If you could choose to have dinner with five people - real of fictional - who would you invite and why?
4. If you could suddenly become the invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?
5. If someone made a funny comedy movie about your life, which part of the story would be the funniest and why?
6, What was your fondest television character when you were a young child? What was it that you liked about them?
7. If there was something that you missed doing in this lifetime what was it?
8. What's the funniest experience in your whole entire life?
9. Have you ever gone on a date with a person who is so way smaller or taller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?
10. How old were you when you had your first proper date? Did you get to kiss them and if so was it a French kiss?
11. What was the worst lie you have ever told in your life? Did you get caught out?
12. If you instantly turned into a woman just for a day, what would you do with your day and why?
13. If you do not like someone do you show it or pretend that you like them?
14. Whih do you prefer the most in a woman - intelligence, a good body or good looks?
Time to get a little more personal! Maybe you should wait till you have had a few more drinks before asking some of these!
15. Have you ever been caught with your pants down in a public place - if so what were you doing?
16. What's the difference between making love and having sex for you and which do you prefer?
17. If you could suddenly change the age you lost your virginity, would you?
18. What are your biggest sexual turn-ons and turn-offs?
19. Have you ever cheated on your partner? Did they ever find out? If so, what happened?
20. Has anyone ever caught you masturbating? If they did what did you do and who was it?
21. Have you ever had sex with more than one woman at a time? - 30299
Dale Carnegie in his mega-best-selling book "How to win friends and influence people" talks about the power of asking questions to show that we are interested in someone else.
Have you ever been to a party and you have been the one asking the questions and doing most of the listening? If you have you will probably agree that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting - funny that! You probably did less that 20% of the speaking but you got 100% of the credit!
If you 're a guy and ask a lady some great questions, you will often find yourself leap-frogging to last-base, saving a lot of time and energy trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and really listening to what a person says is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do with anyone.
If you are a lady and want to stroke a guy's ego and make him feel good then ask lots of interesting questions and then listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a string from there on!
Despite the ego-focused side of asking and listening there is a genuine side as well. Because the people who are genuinely interested in someone else and ask great questions are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.
Here are 21 questions to ask to get the conversation rolling. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions - which are always better.
Here's 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl to get you started
1. If you are working as a waiter and one of your customers was really rude, would you spit in their soup or even think to do this?
2. What was your favourite Halloween dress up costume as a child and why?
3. If you could choose to have dinner with five people - real of fictional - who would you invite and why?
4. If you could suddenly become the invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?
5. If someone made a funny comedy movie about your life, which part of the story would be the funniest and why?
6, What was your fondest television character when you were a young child? What was it that you liked about them?
7. If there was something that you missed doing in this lifetime what was it?
8. What's the funniest experience in your whole entire life?
9. Have you ever gone on a date with a person who is so way smaller or taller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?
10. How old were you when you had your first proper date? Did you get to kiss them and if so was it a French kiss?
11. What was the worst lie you have ever told in your life? Did you get caught out?
12. If you instantly turned into a woman just for a day, what would you do with your day and why?
13. If you do not like someone do you show it or pretend that you like them?
14. Whih do you prefer the most in a woman - intelligence, a good body or good looks?
Time to get a little more personal! Maybe you should wait till you have had a few more drinks before asking some of these!
15. Have you ever been caught with your pants down in a public place - if so what were you doing?
16. What's the difference between making love and having sex for you and which do you prefer?
17. If you could suddenly change the age you lost your virginity, would you?
18. What are your biggest sexual turn-ons and turn-offs?
19. Have you ever cheated on your partner? Did they ever find out? If so, what happened?
20. Has anyone ever caught you masturbating? If they did what did you do and who was it?
21. Have you ever had sex with more than one woman at a time? - 30299
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