Marriage's Last Resort

By Carol Cavanaugh

Imagine this situation. There is a social get together. Boy meets girl. And they began to talk. They chat until the party ends, and then they go back to their particular homes However, neither the boy or girl can get each other off their minds and they keep obsessing about their meeting.

The two meet each other again accidentally. They date each other and slowly become steady friends. Love blooms and marriage looms. Remember, they have only seen the brighter side of each other's face yet but presume that they are made for each other. Wedding bells are rung between the pair with the consent and wishes of their senior persons in their family and their well wishers.

Now the two are so thrilled and excited and cannot wait to be together, away from the prying eyes of the people. They go on a long honey moon, have a whale of a time and return home. Life is great with both of them working and living in a small home. They are so happy that when they see any divorced couple, they cannot believe that how things go sore between two people in love. Divorce is a dirty word for them as yet.

A person's life is full of fun, laughter and mirth, with each wanting to please the other, there is no difference between the two and all things are good. One day, the wife comes home late owing to heavy work at office and the husband is already home. He does not like the fact that she is late and there is a minor argument and she points out that she had not breathed a word whenever he was late. Slowly the differences are resolved and all is well again. This is just the beginning.

Days pass by and there are more arguments between the couple over minor issues and more insinuations. Right now, the wife is pregnant and concerned about whether she will still have a career once the baby comes. Their whole world changes with the arrival of the baby. Everything revolves around the baby for the wife now and the husband is not taking any responsibility. Arguments are more frequent everday as the wife desires to work again and a nanny is appointed for the baby.

As more differences between them become evident, neither of them are ready to be reasonable or accept blame. The added responsibility is telling on the wife and the career-minded husband is not ready to share any household work. Due to the parents' lack of attention, the baby is suffering. Love seems to have flown out of the window and the couple is growing less tolerant towards each other. For them, no other alternative would be acceptable except to divorce. Unfortunately, even though friends and well wishers intervened in an attempt to resolve the misunderstanding, their efforts were in vain. There is a big divider rearing its ugly head between and that is ego.

Did this need to happen? Could nothing else have worked? If they had thought about it reasonably and without emotion, it would have been possible for them. Children are born from the love of two people, and no child should have to suffer under any circumstance. All marriages can be saved as long as there has not been any violence or infidelity. Couples must try to ease the differences between each other, rather to look for a divorce. When all other resources have been used then and only then should divorce be brought into the conversation. - 30299

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