Problems and irritations will occur between any two mates. Our partner will be rude at times, unpleasant to us at times, thoughtless towards us at times. If we can't let these irritations go, we will begin to a big problem in the relationship.
We can recycle an upset in our heads a hundred times, thinking they shouldn't have done that, we should have said that, etc. If we can't let it go, it can create even bigger relationship problems.
This is where forgiveness becomes an essential tool in our relationship toolkit. Forgiveness is a must for keeping relationships from growing apart. It is a must for keeping us in love instead of out of love.
But how can you forgive when what happened is so upsetting and keeps replaying in your mind? How can you let it go when it won't let you go?
Forgiveness takes practice, like any skill. One way to get into the practice is to try not taking things personally.
How do you not take it personally when they yelled at you? Well, understand that they are doing the best they can. But like all of us, they get irritated or bothered about things and explode from time to time. You just happened to be the person there they could vent some frustration towards.
If you can not take it so personally, that creates room for forgiveness. "Oh, they just had a bad moment." "They just had a bad day." This helps you to let it go, and that is what forgiveness does, helps you to let go of past transgressions.
Letting go is a key to forgiveness. If you can't let go of things, you are the one who will walk around for days after reliving a negative event. You are the one who stays hurt. Forgive, and it heps you, and it helps your relationship. - 30299
We can recycle an upset in our heads a hundred times, thinking they shouldn't have done that, we should have said that, etc. If we can't let it go, it can create even bigger relationship problems.
This is where forgiveness becomes an essential tool in our relationship toolkit. Forgiveness is a must for keeping relationships from growing apart. It is a must for keeping us in love instead of out of love.
But how can you forgive when what happened is so upsetting and keeps replaying in your mind? How can you let it go when it won't let you go?
Forgiveness takes practice, like any skill. One way to get into the practice is to try not taking things personally.
How do you not take it personally when they yelled at you? Well, understand that they are doing the best they can. But like all of us, they get irritated or bothered about things and explode from time to time. You just happened to be the person there they could vent some frustration towards.
If you can not take it so personally, that creates room for forgiveness. "Oh, they just had a bad moment." "They just had a bad day." This helps you to let it go, and that is what forgiveness does, helps you to let go of past transgressions.
Letting go is a key to forgiveness. If you can't let go of things, you are the one who will walk around for days after reliving a negative event. You are the one who stays hurt. Forgive, and it heps you, and it helps your relationship. - 30299
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