We hear all the time about how high the American divorce rate is these days - almost a whopping 40%. Many theories exist as to the cause of this high rate, but there is no clear cut answer. Although it may seem like there are few options, there are. It's not always easy, but there are steps you can take to make your marriage the best it can be, or at the very least have an amicable divorce.
If you are still in the beginnings of a relationship, take your time to really get to know the person. In the "honeymoon" period of most people's relationship is when they are most gullible to agree to marriage. The true test of your love is how you communicate and function when one member of the couple never does the dishes or another member leaves their clothes strewn about the room. More important is the way that your relationship is affected by major decisions like moving, changing jobs, or returning to school.
You should sign a prenup, when you do decide to wed. The prenup has gotten a bad name due to highly publicized celebrity divorces, but it truly can be effective. If you are cautious of your future course of action before you get into a marital relationship, it can actually prevent you from being shattered after your split. Try to maintain a level head when working out an agreement of what seems fair to both of you. When drafting your prenup, if there are "what ifs" in your mind, put them in the agreement. For example, if you worry that your spouse will cheat on you, have a clause placed in the agreement as to what will happen in that event. If the day ever comes where you need to go your separate ways, the emotional roller coaster will be much less severe if you both know how things will be split up. There will be no possessions or issues to fight about, and you can both focus your energies on accepting the split, healing, and moving on.
Although for some people counseling has a negative stigma attached to it, couples therapy may help your relationship tremendously. Every couple has a point or two of contention, even those that communicate on a regular basis. Discussing issues with a third party who is able to give an objective point of view will greatly strengthen the bond in your relationship. Before you get married, it might be advantageous to go through couples therapy, and you will be able to determine how strong your relationship will be in the long run.
You must always make it clear to your children, if you have any, the nature of your relationship with them and also with one another. It's important to make sure they know that your marriage is secured and bonded with strength. If your relationship is failing, you are not in love anymore, or you want to split for other reasons, tell them gently. Go to family counseling as well as offering for them to go so solo counseling to work through their feelings. The most important part of this process is to implement a plan that will work, including living arrangements and time restrictions. If the end of your marriage is thrust upon them at the last possible moment, tensions will rise and feelings will be hurt. - 30299
If you are still in the beginnings of a relationship, take your time to really get to know the person. In the "honeymoon" period of most people's relationship is when they are most gullible to agree to marriage. The true test of your love is how you communicate and function when one member of the couple never does the dishes or another member leaves their clothes strewn about the room. More important is the way that your relationship is affected by major decisions like moving, changing jobs, or returning to school.
You should sign a prenup, when you do decide to wed. The prenup has gotten a bad name due to highly publicized celebrity divorces, but it truly can be effective. If you are cautious of your future course of action before you get into a marital relationship, it can actually prevent you from being shattered after your split. Try to maintain a level head when working out an agreement of what seems fair to both of you. When drafting your prenup, if there are "what ifs" in your mind, put them in the agreement. For example, if you worry that your spouse will cheat on you, have a clause placed in the agreement as to what will happen in that event. If the day ever comes where you need to go your separate ways, the emotional roller coaster will be much less severe if you both know how things will be split up. There will be no possessions or issues to fight about, and you can both focus your energies on accepting the split, healing, and moving on.
Although for some people counseling has a negative stigma attached to it, couples therapy may help your relationship tremendously. Every couple has a point or two of contention, even those that communicate on a regular basis. Discussing issues with a third party who is able to give an objective point of view will greatly strengthen the bond in your relationship. Before you get married, it might be advantageous to go through couples therapy, and you will be able to determine how strong your relationship will be in the long run.
You must always make it clear to your children, if you have any, the nature of your relationship with them and also with one another. It's important to make sure they know that your marriage is secured and bonded with strength. If your relationship is failing, you are not in love anymore, or you want to split for other reasons, tell them gently. Go to family counseling as well as offering for them to go so solo counseling to work through their feelings. The most important part of this process is to implement a plan that will work, including living arrangements and time restrictions. If the end of your marriage is thrust upon them at the last possible moment, tensions will rise and feelings will be hurt. - 30299
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