Statistics say it all -- divorce and break up rates are at an all time high. Very few relationships end up ultimately "working", even in cases where two people who love each other very much stick it out for years. It's completely normal to feel like you want advice on how to get your ex back, especially if you had a close relationship. You're not some kind of freak. In fact, very few break ups end with both parties being perfectly content with moving on.
The first step in figuring out how to make your ex come back to you is to take a step back and figure out why people break up to begin with, especially if they were happily together once.
The reasons that people break up are actually a little bit different for both men and women, but they are closely related regardless. But just for the sake of giving you a good understanding of both male and female psychology, I'll talk about them seperately.
Men tend to leave women when they do not feel respected or when they do not feel that they have masculine appeal to their woman. Basically, a man has a sensitive ego, and if he does not feel like a manly man... then he will begin to distance himself from a relationship. He'll even do this subconsciously.
Conversely, women also need to feel like women. But women are not so ego-centric as a man. Instead of constant respect and admiration, a woman needs a sense of appreciation and feeling special, sort of like a priceless heirloom or a treasure. She needs to feel like a princess or a queen to feel secure in a relationship.
Your ex probably already gave you a reason they do not want to be together, and chances are it was vague, confusing, and had little to do with what I just talked about. Allow me to explain.
Humans are "retro-psychological" creatures, meaning that 90% of the time we base our actions purely on our emotions. However, because acting on your emotions is not always acceptable in this society, we often rationalize our behavior by making logical-sounding excuses. That is why the "reasons" that your ex gave you are not only confusing, they are also probably misleading and untrue.
So when your ex tells you why they wanted to break up, it is often smoke and mirrors. Your ex is not intentionally trying to lie to you, but because of the sensitive nature of the subject, their brain will make it "easier" on the both of you through deception.
You're going to have to stop doing the things that makes your ex not want to be together, and start using a few "tricks" to reprogram your ex and make them feel like they did when they first got together with you. - 30299
The first step in figuring out how to make your ex come back to you is to take a step back and figure out why people break up to begin with, especially if they were happily together once.
The reasons that people break up are actually a little bit different for both men and women, but they are closely related regardless. But just for the sake of giving you a good understanding of both male and female psychology, I'll talk about them seperately.
Men tend to leave women when they do not feel respected or when they do not feel that they have masculine appeal to their woman. Basically, a man has a sensitive ego, and if he does not feel like a manly man... then he will begin to distance himself from a relationship. He'll even do this subconsciously.
Conversely, women also need to feel like women. But women are not so ego-centric as a man. Instead of constant respect and admiration, a woman needs a sense of appreciation and feeling special, sort of like a priceless heirloom or a treasure. She needs to feel like a princess or a queen to feel secure in a relationship.
Your ex probably already gave you a reason they do not want to be together, and chances are it was vague, confusing, and had little to do with what I just talked about. Allow me to explain.
Humans are "retro-psychological" creatures, meaning that 90% of the time we base our actions purely on our emotions. However, because acting on your emotions is not always acceptable in this society, we often rationalize our behavior by making logical-sounding excuses. That is why the "reasons" that your ex gave you are not only confusing, they are also probably misleading and untrue.
So when your ex tells you why they wanted to break up, it is often smoke and mirrors. Your ex is not intentionally trying to lie to you, but because of the sensitive nature of the subject, their brain will make it "easier" on the both of you through deception.
You're going to have to stop doing the things that makes your ex not want to be together, and start using a few "tricks" to reprogram your ex and make them feel like they did when they first got together with you. - 30299
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