Wherever you look these days, more marriages are splitting up around you. So if your relationship is not the best right now, you have plenty of company. There are some tips that can help improve marriage, whether it is heading for separation or just needs a little tweaking.
The key way to improving any relationship is improving communication. Every couple on earth can benefit from taking a closer look at their communication patterns. Some things we do not even realize we are doing until we really pay attention.
One aspect of this is to be sure to share your appreciation of the things your partner does that make you happy and help you. We are generally much quicker to criticize than to give praise. But this is important for several reasons.
First and foremost, very few of us can read minds. It may sound silly, but we also need to remember this. So, if you want your partner to do things that please you, make sure you let him or her know when an action does.
Like it or not, humans are animals and, therefore, learn particularly well when good behavior is reinforced and encouraged. It feels good to be praised and we want to get that feeling over and over. We all want our partners to feel good too for their own sake as well as ours. Feeling good about themselves makes them more positive and happier which makes them much more enjoyable to live with.
All communication needs to be as clear as possible. You often hear spouses complaining about how their other halves do not do what they want or need. However, if you have not stated those needs and expectations clearly, you really have no right to complain.
Included in this are your emotional needs as well. You have to accept that these are normal and it is perfectly acceptable to have personal needs in a relationship. Then you have to let your spouse know what those needs are.
For example, many times women feel frustrated that their spouses do not know when they want to be held. But men often do not read those types of signals. Does it really make sense to be upset with them for that? Or does it make more sense to accept that they are going to just get it, and you need to tell them?
Men almost have it worse as they are conditioned to believe that having such needs is not okay for a real man. They need to appreciate that it is absolute okay and natural. And everyone will be better off if they discuss those needs with their spouses rather than keeping them bottled inside.
In a good relationship, each partner wants to do things to support and please the other person. Sometimes, all that is lacking is some direction on how to do that. Good communication can solve that problem. You may be surprised at how much more often your partner does things that please you when you communicate what you would like.
Some marriages are best off ending. There are couples that are not the best fit for one another. But, in other cases, there is just a bit of tweaking that needs to be done to set things right and improve marriage. Better and clearer communication may just be the key. - 30299
The key way to improving any relationship is improving communication. Every couple on earth can benefit from taking a closer look at their communication patterns. Some things we do not even realize we are doing until we really pay attention.
One aspect of this is to be sure to share your appreciation of the things your partner does that make you happy and help you. We are generally much quicker to criticize than to give praise. But this is important for several reasons.
First and foremost, very few of us can read minds. It may sound silly, but we also need to remember this. So, if you want your partner to do things that please you, make sure you let him or her know when an action does.
Like it or not, humans are animals and, therefore, learn particularly well when good behavior is reinforced and encouraged. It feels good to be praised and we want to get that feeling over and over. We all want our partners to feel good too for their own sake as well as ours. Feeling good about themselves makes them more positive and happier which makes them much more enjoyable to live with.
All communication needs to be as clear as possible. You often hear spouses complaining about how their other halves do not do what they want or need. However, if you have not stated those needs and expectations clearly, you really have no right to complain.
Included in this are your emotional needs as well. You have to accept that these are normal and it is perfectly acceptable to have personal needs in a relationship. Then you have to let your spouse know what those needs are.
For example, many times women feel frustrated that their spouses do not know when they want to be held. But men often do not read those types of signals. Does it really make sense to be upset with them for that? Or does it make more sense to accept that they are going to just get it, and you need to tell them?
Men almost have it worse as they are conditioned to believe that having such needs is not okay for a real man. They need to appreciate that it is absolute okay and natural. And everyone will be better off if they discuss those needs with their spouses rather than keeping them bottled inside.
In a good relationship, each partner wants to do things to support and please the other person. Sometimes, all that is lacking is some direction on how to do that. Good communication can solve that problem. You may be surprised at how much more often your partner does things that please you when you communicate what you would like.
Some marriages are best off ending. There are couples that are not the best fit for one another. But, in other cases, there is just a bit of tweaking that needs to be done to set things right and improve marriage. Better and clearer communication may just be the key. - 30299
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