How To Go About Wining Back Your Lover

By Allison Thompson

There are times in a person's life where they will lose someone who they love. Most breakups when they occur are very hard for both people concerned, but not always it will actually depend on what has caused the breakup in the first place. What one needs to remember however is that relationships in order for them to flourish need to be nurtured and if you want your partner to stay around then you need to pay ample love and attention to them.

Sometimes when a relationship comes to an end then one or both people involved in it may find themselves wanting the other person back. Yet is best in most cases if you take a step back from the situation in which you find yourself and just let things be for the moment. In fact you may find that agreeing to this break up is often the best thing and it provides you with the chance to use a little reverse psychology to help you with getting your lover back into your life. So what you basically need to do is pretend you see the breakup as something positive which offers you the chance to move on with your life.

The worse thing that any woman can do when they are trying to win back a lover is to act needy. Remember "no one needs the needy" and by being clingy and showing you can't let your lover go is sure to turn them off and make them even more remote to you than they already are. Dealing with any kind of break up is very difficult and especially so when they mean the world to you. If you have to scream and cry about losing them then do it where they won't see.

When trying to rebuild a broken relationship you should close the doors on communication. This may seem like a bad thing to do considering communication is the key to having a successful relationship but when trying to mend a broken romance this is for the best. Having little to no contact with your love is for the best; the other person may just need a break. Once the break is over with and they see how much they miss you they will come back, if that is what is meant to be.

For whatever reason you shouldn't just stay and home and sulk, instead what you need to do is get out and go and have some fun with your friends. As they say laughter is the best medicine for whatever is ailing you, and this includes a broken heart. You don't have to date or have anything to do with anyone that may be a possible love interest. You just need to go out with your friends and enjoy yourself.

Do not try to be someone you are not, even if what you are trying to be will appeal to your love. Your love was attacked to your in the first place, why try to change now. There are times in a relationship when one or both partners may get bored with the other and just need a change because they for got why they fell in love with the other person in the first place. Be yourself and try to find ways of accenting your unique qualities.

However, in the end it really is up to your lover whether they want to get back with you or whether the break up becomes permanent. Remember you can never force someone into loving you or to keep on loving you. In fact love is a very powerful emotion and something that one should not be toying with. - 30299

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