Children and Marriage

By Adelta Tobias

The intelligent and educated researchers who study couples and what makes or breaks them, say the best marriages harmonize. It is the constant reassurance, silent and verbal, and other forms of communication such as a little smile, written etc., that says, "I hear you, I accept you, I understand you."

It is like having a best friend and telling that friend that they are the best. People need to hear that form of compliment. It is important top some even vital at times. Whats it going to cost you? A few sentences? Can you spare that? Wow. You better be able to spare that or it is back to the dating scene for you kiddo.

The subject of dating many times ends up with the subject of marriage and communication. It is a fact of dating that one or two of you guys are going to get hooked on a girl, and thats great. Go ahead, get married, and do not be afraid, there is always the socially accepted divorce.

The question that enters every mans mind after a few months of dating a woman is, would you want children with this woman? There are so many factors. It depends on what your goals are. If you're a 30-year-old man and want to have kids and the woman is 28, it works great. You need to talk about where you want to be financially and if it is okay to have a kid now. It really depends on the goals that the people have.

If they want to travel for a few years and then come back, they will need to talk about that before hand and have an idea about when they want to have children. Some people are happy getting pregnant six months before they get hooked up while some prefer waiting 10 years. It really depends on the couple. The answer may surprise you, in the end it is not just up to you. The woman has the set of keys to the car; you may get to drive it every now and then. - 30299

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