The father of the bride is the most ill-equipped participant in the wedding. Women know everything about weddings, the groom just needs to show up a couple of times reasonably sober and shaved, and the best man gets to plan a party " how hard is that?
The father of the bride on the other hand passes out a boatload of money to pay for almost everything. Therefore, unless he plans on spending all of his money on the wedding, there are a few things that he must know and do.
1. Planning participation is critical. If youre not part of the planning process, you should instead get Free Money tattooed to your forehead. Dont take over the planning, but make yourself available for the things you know how to do. Wedding receptions are just large, expensive parties with a lot of rules.
2. Resolve yourself to dealing with crazy women. There is something about weddings that causes all women to go crazy. I am positive that at least five times before the wedding occurs you will be accused of trying to ruin everything. This is one of those times in life that it is generally better (but there are exceptions) to just suck it up. For the most part your wife and daughter will just want to vent about their frustrations. For this you need to learn only two responses, That bitch, and Those bastards. Repeat frequently.
3. Figure out where your money is going. Generally most weddings spend about half the budget on the reception. So far in 2009, weddings have been averaging $16,000 to $19,000 according to the weddingreport.com. That means that receptions are running about $8,000 to $9,500. Theres a lot of room in there to save some money.
4. Prepare for your wedding toast. If youre not used to public speaking then you need to read up on it and practice. The actual words you say only count for a small percentage of how the audience interprets your toast. They will be focusing on your body language and how you say the words. Make eye contact. Write out the toast well before you give it and practice it standing up (youll be delivering your toast standing).
5. If your name aint Fred Astaire, learn how to dance. Your dance with your daughter will be doing one of the first dances that everyone watches. Learn the song she wants played and go to a dance studio to learn how to dance it. Spend the money. Many dance studios offer wedding dance packages. Surprise everyone at how light you are on your feet. Do it right and a lot of the women at the reception will want to dance with you.
After its all over, head out on a vacation for just your wife and yourself. You will both need it. - 30299
The father of the bride on the other hand passes out a boatload of money to pay for almost everything. Therefore, unless he plans on spending all of his money on the wedding, there are a few things that he must know and do.
1. Planning participation is critical. If youre not part of the planning process, you should instead get Free Money tattooed to your forehead. Dont take over the planning, but make yourself available for the things you know how to do. Wedding receptions are just large, expensive parties with a lot of rules.
2. Resolve yourself to dealing with crazy women. There is something about weddings that causes all women to go crazy. I am positive that at least five times before the wedding occurs you will be accused of trying to ruin everything. This is one of those times in life that it is generally better (but there are exceptions) to just suck it up. For the most part your wife and daughter will just want to vent about their frustrations. For this you need to learn only two responses, That bitch, and Those bastards. Repeat frequently.
3. Figure out where your money is going. Generally most weddings spend about half the budget on the reception. So far in 2009, weddings have been averaging $16,000 to $19,000 according to the weddingreport.com. That means that receptions are running about $8,000 to $9,500. Theres a lot of room in there to save some money.
4. Prepare for your wedding toast. If youre not used to public speaking then you need to read up on it and practice. The actual words you say only count for a small percentage of how the audience interprets your toast. They will be focusing on your body language and how you say the words. Make eye contact. Write out the toast well before you give it and practice it standing up (youll be delivering your toast standing).
5. If your name aint Fred Astaire, learn how to dance. Your dance with your daughter will be doing one of the first dances that everyone watches. Learn the song she wants played and go to a dance studio to learn how to dance it. Spend the money. Many dance studios offer wedding dance packages. Surprise everyone at how light you are on your feet. Do it right and a lot of the women at the reception will want to dance with you.
After its all over, head out on a vacation for just your wife and yourself. You will both need it. - 30299
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If you are a Father of the Bride, then you need Ken York's Father of the Bride Wedding Guide. It will save you money and help preserve your mental health. Ladies, get the guide for your men.
