How to Write A Father Of The Bride Speech

By Tony Johnston

While each speech that is given during the reception is important, none quite compare to the father of the bride speech. This is typically one of the longer speeches and can become quite emotional. Although no father wants to give his daughter away, this speech is your chance to open up and express your feelings for your daughter and her new husband.

Prior to going to the rehearsal, you must sit down and plan your remarks -- it is vital that they come from your heart. When you write your father of the bride speech in advance, the payoff is on the wedding day when you don't have to worry about it at all. You can write a few drafts since you have a lot more time to think about what you really want to say.

Don't even think about trying to speak off the cuff. Way too many fathers try to speak extemporaneously and just wind up rambling endlessly and with no real point at all. You may feel like breaking down, and may find yourself stumbling on the stage. Knowing in advance exactly what you want to express can help smooth the way for getting through the speech without breaking down.

As you go through your speech, you want to put a lot of heart and emotion into it. This is your little girl that has just gotten married. Talk about when she was a child or some special memories you will forever cherish. While there is nothing wrong with poking fun at her or telling an embarrassing story, try not to make it too uncomfortable. This is her special day and you do not want to reveal too much.

Make sure you acknowledge the groom as well during your father of the bride speech. This is the man that will be taking care of your daughter from here on. Let him know you are happy for the two of them and are glad she found him.

When the happy day arrives, and you are up on the stage getting ready to give your speech, slow down, take a deep breath or two, and take a sip or two of water to help calm you down. Just in case, it is always good to have a tissue or handkerchief handy, although you may think you will hold it together. If you feel yourself tearing up, just take a deep breath for a second or two and hold on. This is what makes your speech, like the occasion, so memorable.

Take your time -- that's the last thing you need to remember. There is absolutely no reason to rush through your speech. Force yourself to deliver the speech at a calm, even pace, even if you are nervous. Your speech will sound so much more smooth and professional, while making it possible to express every idea you outlined when you drafted it. - 30299

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