Is your To Do List A Little Like This:
-Feed the dog -Do Laundry -Break up with significant other
Ending your relationship probably isn't at the top of your list, but when a relationship has slid down hill, someone has to make the first move to end it. There are just too many relationships holding on well past their "expire by" date because breaking up is hard to do.
Sometimes relationships end in a fury, with clothes and personal belongings being thrown off the second story balcony.
Other times, things just flat line and eventually somebody works up the guts to say "its done."
If you are the one that's ready to end it, how do you accomplish that so that neither party gets hurt?
First, you have to be completely clear as to why you're ready to terminate it. Your first thought, may not be the real reason. Once you've pinned down your real reason, you have to take the next step and be completely honest, which means a conversation with your partner where you are completely honest and open.
Set a time for the break up that is good for both of you to meet in person. Breaking up over the phone or internet isn't generally a good idea unless distance is an issue. If it is, do it as soon as possible. Don't wait until you are in person, just call them and set up a time to talk.
If you want to stay friends, or even be friendly when you see each other, you have to end the romantic ties with compassion. Be as compassionate as possible.
Putting your partner on the defensive is the last thing you want to do. Stay present during the conversation. Talk about things you enjoyed about being with them, lessons you've learned and the memories you'll always remember fondly.
Let things roll off your back, your partner may say things they don't really mean. Don't take these things too personally.
More than one meeting may be needed for your partner to deal with the relationship ending or they may need some extra space. During this transition, try to give them what they need.
Don't let them make you feel guilty though. You're starting a new part of your life, and a relationship with your ex isn't included in that. If you're breaking up for the right reasons, it's better for both of you to remain just friends.
Should you ever consider reconnecting with your ex? Is the end, "THE END?"
This is something that will be very personal and only you can decide. Most relationships can be saved if certain conditions are met. If you are willing to make the effort, and you have the time, you can get through this rough patch and come out an even stronger couple.
That being said, if you are bound and determined to move on, it's best to end the relationship with a clean break and move along. - 30299
-Feed the dog -Do Laundry -Break up with significant other
Ending your relationship probably isn't at the top of your list, but when a relationship has slid down hill, someone has to make the first move to end it. There are just too many relationships holding on well past their "expire by" date because breaking up is hard to do.
Sometimes relationships end in a fury, with clothes and personal belongings being thrown off the second story balcony.
Other times, things just flat line and eventually somebody works up the guts to say "its done."
If you are the one that's ready to end it, how do you accomplish that so that neither party gets hurt?
First, you have to be completely clear as to why you're ready to terminate it. Your first thought, may not be the real reason. Once you've pinned down your real reason, you have to take the next step and be completely honest, which means a conversation with your partner where you are completely honest and open.
Set a time for the break up that is good for both of you to meet in person. Breaking up over the phone or internet isn't generally a good idea unless distance is an issue. If it is, do it as soon as possible. Don't wait until you are in person, just call them and set up a time to talk.
If you want to stay friends, or even be friendly when you see each other, you have to end the romantic ties with compassion. Be as compassionate as possible.
Putting your partner on the defensive is the last thing you want to do. Stay present during the conversation. Talk about things you enjoyed about being with them, lessons you've learned and the memories you'll always remember fondly.
Let things roll off your back, your partner may say things they don't really mean. Don't take these things too personally.
More than one meeting may be needed for your partner to deal with the relationship ending or they may need some extra space. During this transition, try to give them what they need.
Don't let them make you feel guilty though. You're starting a new part of your life, and a relationship with your ex isn't included in that. If you're breaking up for the right reasons, it's better for both of you to remain just friends.
Should you ever consider reconnecting with your ex? Is the end, "THE END?"
This is something that will be very personal and only you can decide. Most relationships can be saved if certain conditions are met. If you are willing to make the effort, and you have the time, you can get through this rough patch and come out an even stronger couple.
That being said, if you are bound and determined to move on, it's best to end the relationship with a clean break and move along. - 30299
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